Great question, Liyana! Letting go certainly isn’t easy. One of the inspirations for SHADE was my own desire to see those loved ones I’d lost. Especially when someone is taken from us suddenly, there’s a huge need for closure, to say all the things that were left unsaid, to share a special moment like a graduation or wedding with them, or if nothing else, to say goodbye.
Unfortunately (well, probably fortunately ;-), SHADE isn’t the reality, and we have to learn to let go on our own, without the help of the dead. I think it just takes time, plus finding a way to honor and remember them without pain. My one and only tattoo, of a black cat, memorializes my own favorite pet who was one of my best friends. I found that once I got the tattoo, I was ready to move on and finally adopt a new cat after
almost two years.
Jeri Smith-Ready's website
2 comment(s):
That's a great way to remember your cat and let go of it at the same time. I'm afraid I'd be covered with dogs though if I did that. I think a garden or a tree for me is the best way, though I finally need to get settled in a house. I don't have a person a can't let go of, just my animals.
Heather
I think it takes a long time to let go of someone you loved. I'd love it if I could see the ghosts of my last two dogs that died. I always though ghosts were scary, but if they were of someone I loved, I think I'd be comforted.
Heather Rosdol